Sibling fighting can get the best of me.
Knowing it’s a huge trigger, I’ve been working at keeping my cool when the sh*t starts to hit the fan.
Big brother chucking little brother off the bathroom stool while washing up after lunch.
Insert: Instant visions of a giant, swollen, bloody lip and smashed teeth.
Thankfully my imagination was way out of sync with reality. A little bit of crying, but no major physical damage and all was well after about five minutes.
After the dust settled, I got down to my usual business of talking to my three-year-old about his behaviour and asking if he was ready to make amends with his brother.
He was ready.
You know what he said?
“You have to be careful. You could really burn your fingers.”
He wasn’t pushing to be mean! He was trying to save his brother from getting burned fingers!
I was instantly overcome with a flood of different thoughts and emotions, mainly surrounding what the ‘old’ me would have done.
(Just picture yelling, scolding, yucky grossness and you’ll get the idea…)
The worst part?
I would have never known his true intentions.
He would have been upset, I would have been a ball of boiling rage, and you’d better believe he wouldn’t be so quick to try and *help* his brother next time.
In the end, he was able to make amends AND received acknowledgement that his intentions were indeed very thoughtful and kind, though misguided.
Because hello, pushing your brother off of a step stool is NOT okay.
But thinking of his safety is very much a quality I want to nurture and grow.
So from now on, I’m going to do my darndest not to make assumptions.
‘Cause you know what?
You don’t really know what’s going on inside those cute little heads of theirs.
Unless you ask. ❤️
Have you ever fallen into the same trap? Assuming your kids were ‘misbehaving’ for the heck of it when in actual fact they were only trying to help? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to hear from you!
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