As I was getting ready to publish this week’s vid, I realized I had made a *major* oversight.
This week is all about judgement. I feel most (if not all!) of us have felt the sting of judgement at one time or another. I’m sure a lot of us are guilty of dishing it out ourselves. I know I am.
But in making this week’s vid there was one major piece I overlooked; something more damaging than the judgement we place on others.
And that’s the judgement we place on ourselves.
We beat ourselves up over the tiniest of mistakes. We place our self-worth in the hands of others. We let the “likes” on our social media posts dictate our value. We compare our choices, our lifestyles, and our relationships to those around us. Each judgement slowly eroding our confidence, our happiness, and our sense of self-worth. We let all this noise drown out the only voice that really and truly matters.
It’s easy to get caught in the trap of trying to do what’s “right” or what social media thinks you “should” be doing. What a “happy” family looks like or what a “good” parent does. Heck, I fall into this trap almost daily.
But when I find myself standing on the edge, ready to jump into the abyss of self-loathing for the reason du jour of why I’m a bad mom/person/friend/leader, I try to pause. Even if just for a moment, to take a breath and regroup. To reality-check whatever BS story I’ve just created for why I’m not measuring up, and remind myself of one simple truth:
I’m the one holding the ruler.
I’m the one who gets to decide how I treat myself.
I’m the one who gets to decide whether I breastfeed/co-sleep/volunteer at school/pack gourmet lunches — based on what works best for me and my fam.
Sometimes my life jives with the status quo. A lot of the time it doesn’t.
And that’s ok.
Because true happiness can only be found through staying in your own lane. Embracing what works and changing what doesn’t.
Trusting yourself along the way.
You already have all the answers. You just need to shut out the noise long enough to listen.
Wishing you all juicy goodness that comes with living life on your own terms,