I always know I’m in trouble when I start muttering under my breath.
When I catch myself (or let’s be honest — when my kids catch me, asking, “who are you talking to, mom?”) I know that I need to check myself. It’s like hearing my own voice is a warning that I’m about to go off the rails.
This morning, with a laundry list of things to get done, plus a sick child home from school, the stress was building and it wasn’t even 7am.
“How are you going to get all this done?”
“This is the last thing you need…”
“So much for a productive day…”
All negative. All completely unhelpful. Each thought sending me further and further into the grouch zone.
After a few minutes of these gems of positivity, I started talking out loud.
“Well, maybe if you wouldn’t have…”
“I guess maybe next time you should…”
Blaming, criticizing and complaining my way deeper and deeper, until I stopped and looked at myself in the mirror.
Just a quick little pause, but enough to stop and take notice of what I was doing.
Whenever I catch myself being overly critical or negative, I ask myself two simple questions:
1. What do you want?
2. What are you doing?
It’s like my own little BS detector. If what I’m doing isn’t helping me get what I want, then that’s my cue to start making some changes.
Super simple, no fluff and cutting straight to the point. These two little beauties have saved me so much time and stress while also allowing me to course correct to achieve my goals and live with intention.
This morning it was checking my attitude and making a plan.
Other days it’s leaving the cheesecake in the grocery store or getting my butt outside to go for a walk.
So my friend, I have to ask:
What do you want?
And is what you’re doing helping you get there?
Holla back and let me know.